I genuinely need advice on how to be able to rely on myself

[notsad2 (nots7d)]

I am way too insecure to ask for help on discord servers, I just ask this 1 friend of mine and he always helps. I am always too scared to go into a more “public” place, such as devforum.

[DiamondDrencher1 (nil)]

How long did that take you to write? Jesus christ.

[notsad2 (nots7d)]

I have no clue how plugins work, at all.

[DasKairo (Cairo)]

45 minutes, I started when this reply was just 6 minutes old.

@SkrubDaNub

Personally, I tried doing projects that were way out of my depth - forcing me to constantly google. Asking help is great, sure, but I use it as a last resort when I can’t think of a solution myself after a few hours. For me, it was an incredibly efficient way of learning in general. In fact, this is how I learn to code in new languages. For example, I’ve been learning C by making a minesweeper game and now semi-confident in how pointers and stuff work (to the point that I actually want them in lua!).

The pattern of not knowing something then googling it will at some point make things stick.

lol

[notsad2 (nots7d)]

Man just wrote a book and put the most motivational things in them ever, thanks :3

[LionC390 (Lionel)]

exactly my point, I tried to ask for help on a discord server, everyone laughed at me, and been real toxic at me, basically cyber bullying me, and then they did what I wanted but didn’t show me how to do it, in other words the codes, etc

however the devforum is just as nice as your friend is, you talk with real devs who went through the pain and suffering when they started

[notsad2 (nots7d)]

I do agree with the devforum part, I’m not seeing any hostility here at all, besides occasional “flaming”, yet I’m still hesitant, because before I knew about devforum, my source of help was always some discord server or anything similar, experienced this and that, and ever since I’ve been hesitant to ask for help anywhere.

[LionC390 (Lionel)]

same for me I thought as here were filled with devs it would be as chaotic as discord, but discord by itself just has either toxic users, inappropriate users, hackers/exploiters/raiders, pests and liars
and reading through some posts on the devforum and the comments and comparing them to discord I saw the huge difference of how nice everyone is on devforum than discord, so you’re as hesitant as I was when I joined, but you’ll overcome it soon!

[notsad2 (nots7d)]

A bit of a side thing, to this day I still experience drama/toxicity or whatever you wanna call it, and considering I already went insecure because of that, I get called soft, which is what also makes me scared, I know arguments on the forum are extremely rare, but the thought of getting into one and experiencing discord 2.0 is what also makes me hesitant, wow I’m quite paranoid.

[LionC390 (Lionel)]

yup, everyone has their own personalities, my personality is being too kind to others, not strict at all, I cannot win an argument or start a good argument to begin with, however when I talk I sound like I am , because my ideas are never focused in one spot.

and arguments on devforum you will only find when roblox makes a bad update

online I try to be factual and sometimes i may get myself in a factual argument same for physically but I don’t really have friends irl,

im homeschooled

, so most of my friends are online , my irl ones are online too now so yea, discord loves to bully those who are: kind, soft, caring, funny, and or smart users, basically a bullying platform, this is more of a share your thoughts platform, a freedom of speech platform

[LionC390 (Lionel)]

for example the talents in my bio i am bullied for when I ask for help or an opinion, or recommendation
cuz discord users will be like: “but you do gfx designs why ask us” the convo gets worse, like some will say “it’s trash” but,yh so I am cyber bullied for my talents and asking for help, and or being kind, that’s why I’m doing courses in cyber security now, and am learning how to ignore toxic responses and how to deal with it

[notsad2 (nots7d)]

98% of discord users will either “band 4 band” or straight up bully you without providing any logical arguments, and they always think they’re right.

i’m never able to understand how discord users can think “but you do x why are you asking us for help lol”, doing x doesn’t mean you have 100% of knowledge about it, they never understand that

and they always think they’re right.

because whenever you actually respond with something normal, they always say “this guy thinks he’s the main protagonist/sigma, whatever”, it’s never different

to this day i still wonder how we got to this point

[LionC390 (Lionel)]

exactly, like I showed a gfx design in a server for feedback got some bullies and bro got his “friends” to comment same things he was commenting and they even remade my whole design in a few minutes to show me how “basic” my design was
and those thought that they were right in everything they were saying as they were able to remake my designs and they been mean so much that eventually they forgot why they were even bullying me, I just closed the post and left them

[ValtryekRBLX (Nexus)]

I’m not gonna lie to you, if you let wannabes on Discord push you around and affect you, Discord isn’t meant for you, and you should probably delete it or not use it at the least.